Baa Baa Black Sheep
Don't get me wrong, I really love my family, they have been with me through some tough times. However that doesn't mean that they are the easiest people to be around. Quite the contrary as a matter of fact. My parents are cool, so are my brothers and sister, and well all of my family have great qualities individually, as people. But when we are all together, all these personalities clash in such a way that, well it is torturous to endure. Especially since we are a close knit family that gets together very often. In a few weeks we are going to have another one of our family gatherings, this time at one of my uncle's farm up north. And once again I can envision the drama that this will cause. And as always I will find myself in the center of it.
You see I am basically a black sheep in a family of black sheep. Well me and 2 of my cousins, "Pino" and "Ant". The family has this sense of decorum that needs to be kept. I guess for years they have built up this reputation. A reputation as an ideal family. We don't have arguments, we are all happy and carefree, we work hard together to achieve success both financially and socially, yet we are all humble, people come to us for advice because we have already surpassed the obstacles, etc, etc, etc.... A nice reputation to be sure, but the reality is that it is all bull crap! Our family is just like everyone else's, we have our problems, our fights. We are imperfect. I recognize that, in fact I embrace it. Our family isn't the fairy tale, we have to make our own path. And so I have done just so. I do my own things, and pursue my own agendas. I am always still there for my family, but I see the need to do things my way. Yes it has gotten me in trouble many times, but like Frankie said in the end I can say "I did it my way"!
Because of this I am viewed as a black sheep, and as such am usually the "cause" of any family discord. Mainly it is because some rumour got out (this means some family secret, that they didn't want revealed) and they think it was because either me or one of my cousins let it out. What they don't realize is that despite the facade, people will eventually see through it, but I digress. The thing is that the blaim, and the outburst that accompanies it is usually quite humorous, at least in my point of view.
For instance, last summer at another one of our family gatherings. We were all sitting down and eating when someone brought up the subject of the little car accident. My brother-in-law was visiting one of my uncles and had parked in my aunt's space, when she returned home instead of parking on the street or asking my bro to move, she parked behind him with the trunk of the car sticking out on the road. Visability was bad that evening and someone driving on the street hit the car. Anyways, the subject was raised at diner by someone, who said that my bro was "selfish for parking there" (how, I still don't know) My mom jumped in and said not to talk about being selfish because of things other family members did. This led into a huge argument. Things were said that had no relevence to the topic, such as one of my cousins afair, which led to blaming people for who told others about it. In the end everyone was shouting, some were crying, and me, well I hadn't said a single word. Then one of my aunts got up, pointed at me and yelled "THIS IS ALL YOUR FAULT!!!!"
Increadable. I got blamed for doing nothing. Well such as it goes. I put up with it because tht is the type of person I am. I may be a black sheep, but so are all of them, even if they don't realize it. We might as well stick it out together. Even though there will almost undoubtedly will be some some drama at the upcoming family gathering, at least there will be good food, and the odd show that goes with it.
You see I am basically a black sheep in a family of black sheep. Well me and 2 of my cousins, "Pino" and "Ant". The family has this sense of decorum that needs to be kept. I guess for years they have built up this reputation. A reputation as an ideal family. We don't have arguments, we are all happy and carefree, we work hard together to achieve success both financially and socially, yet we are all humble, people come to us for advice because we have already surpassed the obstacles, etc, etc, etc.... A nice reputation to be sure, but the reality is that it is all bull crap! Our family is just like everyone else's, we have our problems, our fights. We are imperfect. I recognize that, in fact I embrace it. Our family isn't the fairy tale, we have to make our own path. And so I have done just so. I do my own things, and pursue my own agendas. I am always still there for my family, but I see the need to do things my way. Yes it has gotten me in trouble many times, but like Frankie said in the end I can say "I did it my way"!
Because of this I am viewed as a black sheep, and as such am usually the "cause" of any family discord. Mainly it is because some rumour got out (this means some family secret, that they didn't want revealed) and they think it was because either me or one of my cousins let it out. What they don't realize is that despite the facade, people will eventually see through it, but I digress. The thing is that the blaim, and the outburst that accompanies it is usually quite humorous, at least in my point of view.
For instance, last summer at another one of our family gatherings. We were all sitting down and eating when someone brought up the subject of the little car accident. My brother-in-law was visiting one of my uncles and had parked in my aunt's space, when she returned home instead of parking on the street or asking my bro to move, she parked behind him with the trunk of the car sticking out on the road. Visability was bad that evening and someone driving on the street hit the car. Anyways, the subject was raised at diner by someone, who said that my bro was "selfish for parking there" (how, I still don't know) My mom jumped in and said not to talk about being selfish because of things other family members did. This led into a huge argument. Things were said that had no relevence to the topic, such as one of my cousins afair, which led to blaming people for who told others about it. In the end everyone was shouting, some were crying, and me, well I hadn't said a single word. Then one of my aunts got up, pointed at me and yelled "THIS IS ALL YOUR FAULT!!!!"
Increadable. I got blamed for doing nothing. Well such as it goes. I put up with it because tht is the type of person I am. I may be a black sheep, but so are all of them, even if they don't realize it. We might as well stick it out together. Even though there will almost undoubtedly will be some some drama at the upcoming family gathering, at least there will be good food, and the odd show that goes with it.
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