Settling down, or just settling?
I've always wanted to get married, have a family. Just live a normal life, but it seams that what everyone else has and takes for granted, is so hard to acheive. I wonder if I will ever find the one. Well let me rephrase that, the one where I don't mess it up.
I've only ever been with 2 girls, and both have been an unmittageted disaster. One had to end because it was the right thing to do, the other, well I am still trying to figure out. But both times I thought that this was it, she would be the girl I spend the rest of my life with. Once again I was wrong. Now I have no one, and it is a lonely exestence. Now I see that all my friends have either married, or are in a serious relationship. I am the last single guy. That comes with probles. As a single guy, you are let go by those who are married. Perhaps it is unconscience, but married people hang out with married people. It's a new life and they want people who can share their experiances. I don't fit into that mold yet, but I want to. Not just to fit in with them, but it is only natural to want that. This is where I have a dilema.
There is this girl that I know, we are friends, in that we hang out sometimes in the same group. I am not attracted to her. I mean she is a good girl, nice personality, I would call her pretty, but I don't feel anything towards her. There is no chemisty. There is nothing. To me she is just a casual friend. However that is on my end. She on the other hand likes me, a lot. I can tell by the way she acts. That and others have told me. She does want a relationship.
So here is the dilema. What do I do? I could tell her the truth, that I don't feel that way about her. We would just remain friends. Or I could go for it. I want a relationship, and this may be my last chance. I know she loves me, and she is a good girl. I could just go for it, start dating, and then get married. In a way we would both get what we want. She would get me, I would get a wife. Yes it would be a lie, but I would never tell her. I would treat her like a queen, and who knows, maybe in time I will grow to love her. In the mean time I would still be faithful. It's an idea.
Yes I know that it would not be fair to her. It wouldn't be fair to me either, but this world isn't fair. Besides, I know people who have had arrainged marrages, where they haven't met their mate till the day they got married, and they have worked out ok. It would be wrong, but now I don't know what right is. This will keep me up at night for a long time. I'll give it 6 months, and see what happens in the meantime. I'll make a decision by then. I hope.
I've only ever been with 2 girls, and both have been an unmittageted disaster. One had to end because it was the right thing to do, the other, well I am still trying to figure out. But both times I thought that this was it, she would be the girl I spend the rest of my life with. Once again I was wrong. Now I have no one, and it is a lonely exestence. Now I see that all my friends have either married, or are in a serious relationship. I am the last single guy. That comes with probles. As a single guy, you are let go by those who are married. Perhaps it is unconscience, but married people hang out with married people. It's a new life and they want people who can share their experiances. I don't fit into that mold yet, but I want to. Not just to fit in with them, but it is only natural to want that. This is where I have a dilema.
There is this girl that I know, we are friends, in that we hang out sometimes in the same group. I am not attracted to her. I mean she is a good girl, nice personality, I would call her pretty, but I don't feel anything towards her. There is no chemisty. There is nothing. To me she is just a casual friend. However that is on my end. She on the other hand likes me, a lot. I can tell by the way she acts. That and others have told me. She does want a relationship.
So here is the dilema. What do I do? I could tell her the truth, that I don't feel that way about her. We would just remain friends. Or I could go for it. I want a relationship, and this may be my last chance. I know she loves me, and she is a good girl. I could just go for it, start dating, and then get married. In a way we would both get what we want. She would get me, I would get a wife. Yes it would be a lie, but I would never tell her. I would treat her like a queen, and who knows, maybe in time I will grow to love her. In the mean time I would still be faithful. It's an idea.
Yes I know that it would not be fair to her. It wouldn't be fair to me either, but this world isn't fair. Besides, I know people who have had arrainged marrages, where they haven't met their mate till the day they got married, and they have worked out ok. It would be wrong, but now I don't know what right is. This will keep me up at night for a long time. I'll give it 6 months, and see what happens in the meantime. I'll make a decision by then. I hope.
posted by The Cube at 7:20 AM
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