Cheating
I despise cheating, and those who do it. It has become more and more common these days and it is disgusting. The worse part is that those who do cheat on their partner try to justify it. THERE IS NO JUSTIFICATION! No matter how you try to reason or explain it it is never right. You have turned your back on love. Men have fought and died for love, empires have gone to war over it, but by cheating, love is turned into nothing more that a cheep trinket, something valuless that can be cast aside.
What's worse is the excuses that people come up with to justify their actions. My personal favorite is that they are in a relationship, yet they have found their true love somewhere outside of it. Even if you did find some one you love, and something good comes out of it, you are still a cheater, once and for always. Who's to say that in this new relationship, which was founded on lies and lack of self-control, you wont find another "love"? In reality, it is not love it is lust.
Besides the truth of the mater is that it was never love that motivates someone to cheat, it is a lack of respect, for your partner, for your lover, and for yourself. You made a comitment to someone, and that involves sticking with them through the good times and the bad. Yet when you find someone you like you betray your partner. You make a conscience decision, yes a decsion, that your partner is not worthy of your love and commitment. You make a decision that they are not worthy as a human being. Then you devaluate yourself because you have betryed your partner, your friends and family, the concept of love itself, all because you wanted to have a little action on the side, instead of focusing and repairing the relationship you are already in. Personaly I don't care about the cheater and their value as a person, they deserve to burn in hell. It's the ones hurt by this. They have to live with the cosiquences their whole life. They have to live with feelings of inadiquacy, that someone didn't think of them as a person to cheat on them. They have to deal with trust issues, depression, and hate. The cheater has destroyed their life.
I am not writing on this because someone cheated on me per se. I write this because it has be come pandemic in this world. I have seen it with my friends, and even family, and it disgusts me because we have to chose sides. God help me should I ever be in that position.
What's worse is the excuses that people come up with to justify their actions. My personal favorite is that they are in a relationship, yet they have found their true love somewhere outside of it. Even if you did find some one you love, and something good comes out of it, you are still a cheater, once and for always. Who's to say that in this new relationship, which was founded on lies and lack of self-control, you wont find another "love"? In reality, it is not love it is lust.
Besides the truth of the mater is that it was never love that motivates someone to cheat, it is a lack of respect, for your partner, for your lover, and for yourself. You made a comitment to someone, and that involves sticking with them through the good times and the bad. Yet when you find someone you like you betray your partner. You make a conscience decision, yes a decsion, that your partner is not worthy of your love and commitment. You make a decision that they are not worthy as a human being. Then you devaluate yourself because you have betryed your partner, your friends and family, the concept of love itself, all because you wanted to have a little action on the side, instead of focusing and repairing the relationship you are already in. Personaly I don't care about the cheater and their value as a person, they deserve to burn in hell. It's the ones hurt by this. They have to live with the cosiquences their whole life. They have to live with feelings of inadiquacy, that someone didn't think of them as a person to cheat on them. They have to deal with trust issues, depression, and hate. The cheater has destroyed their life.
I am not writing on this because someone cheated on me per se. I write this because it has be come pandemic in this world. I have seen it with my friends, and even family, and it disgusts me because we have to chose sides. God help me should I ever be in that position.
posted by The Cube at 6:38 AM
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despise cheating, and those who do it. It has become more and more common these days and it is disgusting. The worse part is that those who do cheat on their partner try to justify it. THERE IS NO JUSTIFICATION! No matter how you try to reason or explain it it is never right. You have turned your back on love. Men have fought and died for love, empires have gone to war over it, but by cheating, love is turned into nothing more that a cheep trinket, something valuless that can be cast aside.
What's worse is the excuses that people come up with to justify their actions. My personal favorite is that they are in a relationship, yet they have found their true love somewhere outside of it. Even if you did find some one you love, and something good comes out of it, you are still a cheater, once and for always. Who's to say that in this new relationship, which was founded on lies and lack of self-control, you wont find another "love"? In reality, it is not love it is lust.
Besides the truth of the mater is that it was never love that motivates someone to cheat, it is a lack of respect, for your partner, for your lover, and for yourself. You made a comitment to someone, and that involves sticking with them through the good times and the bad. Yet when you find someone you like you betray your partner. You make a conscience decision, yes a decsion, that your partner is not worthy of your love and commitment. You make a decision that they are not worthy as a human being. Then you devaluate yourself because you have betryed your partner, your friends and family, the concept of love itself, all because you wanted to have a little action on the side, instead of focusing and repairing the relationship you are already in. Personaly I don't care about the cheater and their value as a person, they deserve to burn in hell. It's the ones hurt by this. They have to live with the cosiquences their whole life. They have to live with feelings of inadiquacy, that someone didn't think of them as a person to cheat on them. They have to deal with trust issues, depression, and hate. The cheater has destroyed their life.
I am not writing on this because someone cheated on me per se. I write this because it has be come pandemic in this world. I have seen it with my friends, and even family, and it disgusts me because we have to chose sides. God help me should I ever be in that position.
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I am a cheater. Perhaps you may not ever fully understand. I will definitely say that it is more than I can explain fully in a comment like this. I don't expect you to understand. I just want to put my side of it out there & perhaps plant the seed of another point of view in your mind.
First, let me say that you are right, there is no excuse to cheat. There are however circumstances that can drag you to the very edge of reason.
If I go way back, what brought me to make the choice to cheat was the abuse I suffered as a child, sexual, emotional, religious, etc. This messes with your head & if no one helps you to understand it, it can & will set you up to ruin your own life in one way or another.
The core issue caused by the abuse on me was that I felt in the deepest place in my heart that I was not good enough & never ever would be. It set me up so that when I wasn't expecting it a whole bunch of things came together in my life in a way where I can tell you it seemed logical to cheat. Even now it disgusts me to type this however I can honestly say, it seemed like the right thing to do at the time.
Of course, as we have both stated, it is never right to cheat. It messed up my life & my husbands & many others as well. There has been terrible pain & anger that have come about because of it.
There has also been great truth revealed by what happened & my husband & I have ultimately made decisions that have drawn us much closer than we ever would have been by now.
What I want to emphasize is, when you think of cheaters, perhaps keep in mind that cheaters aren't born cheaters. Most people don't see the half of what they have been through. And what they must now go through as a result of their decisions, is a sad story indeed.
Let him that is blameless throw the first stone.
Alis
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